Authentic (adj): Of undisputed origin; genuine.
Synthetic (adj): Not natural or genuine; artificial or contrived.
Friendships (n): a state of mutual trust and support between allied nations.
Most of the time if I start off one of my blogs with definitions than you know most likely that this subject is close to my heart. One thing that I have struggled with growing up was not having authentic friendships. Don't get me wrong, I've always been a person where most of the time I was "cool" with almost any and everyone, but I always seemed to lack having long lasting authentic friendships. I also noticed that a lot of women struggle with this issue even as grown adults.
Don't Get It Twisted....
When I was in middle and high school I always had friends around. Shoot, I was even Cheerleading Captain for two years, and Homecoming Queen, so someone had to like me. But now that I am an adult I am starting to realize what quality over quantity means. See definitions below.
Quality (n): The standard of something as measured against other things of a similar kind; the degree of excellence of something.
Quantity (n): The amount or number of a material or immaterial thing not usually estimated by spatial measurement.
But Sometimes, People Change, and You Might Even Outgrow Some...
The picture above makes me laugh because it is so funny, harsh, and true. I feel like we want friendships so bad that we will sit and spend so much time trying to justify why we are friends with them, when in actuality we deep down don't like those "friends" at all. Honestly, a lot of "best friends" and "friends" I had in the past years of my life I realized that some are still around, and I still consider my "best friends" but, I understand that as you grow older you outgrow some people. The way I see it, God will place certain people in our lives for a reason to get us prepared for the next season in our lives, however, God doesn't tell us exactly how long those people will be there. Am I telling you to hold onto dead weight when it's more than obvious that God is telling you that it is time to move on from some people? No. And am I telling you to just go around cutting everybody off? Absolutely not.
Sometimes I believe that we will hold onto dead friendships because we hate to be alone. I personally also believe that we hate to be alone because society wants us to believe that if we spend too much time alone, then there is something wrong with you. I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. You are allowed to let go of toxic weight. It is also healthy to spend time with yourself. The best part of spending time with yourself is being able to learn more about yourself. It is also a lot easier to improve your life, rather than tearing down others with those synthetic relationships.
I once had a history teacher in high school break down relationships in life. I remember he said that what we want out of life changes. He compared our lives from middle school to high school and asked us if our preferences in friendships and relationships were the same. The whole class said no, and he said that at the age of 16 that we had saw nothing yet. He said that life was all about changes and that we should embrace them. The moral of my story is that we should all be willing to adjust the way that God wants us to. There is a reason for everything, and just maybe, we should not go around questioning them, but instead embrace and trust them. You must think wisely when it comes down to the company you keep. What will you choose?
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